Saturday, December 19, 2009

So what is life all about?

I love analyzing things as a distant observer, can be at times quite enlightening and insightful about everyone and everything around us. In this quest to understand the way people behave around me, and in the crude shock of what level some of them can degrade to for really meager purposes I write this blog entry.

There are people manipulating others - fighting for coo-rd-ships, fighting for core-ships, fighting for parental property, fighting for more power, fighting it out to the core for real silly ends. And the means they take to achieve these ends are, trust me, very rudely shocking. Screwing up relations, ending long friendships, breaking trust, .. for what? competition? peer respect? Some pessimistic, some overtly narcissist. Some real jealous and some pure psychs.

Life isn't abt keepin score. It is not about how many people call you and it is not about who you've dated, are dating or havent dated at all. It isn't about what sports you play, or which co-ord you became by incessantly flattering so and so! It is not about your shoes, your hair or the color of you skin or where you live or where you go to college. In fact, it is not about grades or money either. Life isn't about you having lots of farce acquaintances, or about you being alone. Life just is not about these things!

Life as I understand should be about who you love and who you hurt. It should be about how you feel about yourself. It should be about trust, happiness .. compassion. It should be about sticking up for your friends and replacing inner hate with love. Life is about controlling jealousy, overcoming ignorance and building confidence and self esteem by adding value to the society you live in. It should be about what you say and what you really believe and how close they really are. It should be about seeing people for who they are and not what they have or what they look like or what they can do for you. Lastly, I feel, it should be about choosing to use your life to touch someone else's in a way that does collective good. These choices are what Life's purpose should be about.

This is both the easiest choice to make as well as the toughest to tread. Begin by smiling at the first person you greet tomorrow! :)

Saturday, June 14, 2008

Dream on .. :)

Over the years, there happen many a change in an individual or at least that is the case with me, and I am sure most of my friends reading this would acknowledge it. Of the many that take place, one very subtle change that happens in most of us is how we stop dreaming.

I had much better ideas of what I wanted to do as a kid as compared to what I have now. 2 years down the line and I can only imagine. A hectic experience once at the bank making me feel like becoming a banker and being at the centre of all the chaos .. a loving teacher making me feel like being a teacher .. the fun of travel making me dream of being an adventurer. Everything was clear and everything possible ... But now, what has happened to me? My life has become so pathetically & monotonically aimless. We have all become these moronic beings, too afraid to follow our dreams & most of us are busy moving ahead with the band-wagon as they say. Some may argue that the stakes are too high for us & the fear of risking all that we ever accomplished too overwhelming (in my case, for eg., getting into the IITs). Although right to a certain extent, this reasoning I believe has got more to it.

How many of us here can claim to be truly aware of their personal calling? We don't all have the courage to confront our own dreams. Why? There are 2 reasons as I see it.

First, we are told from childhood onwards that everything we want to do is impossible. We grow up with this idea & as the years accumulate, so does the layers of prejudice, fear and guilt. There comes a time when our dreams are so deeply buried in our soul so as to be invisible. But they are still there. In fact as a close friend of mine looks at reality, "An individual's perception of life, unfortunately twisted so horrifically by this world that anyone having an unconventional opinion is generally acknowledged as crazy", pretty much sums up my feelings here.

Secondly, Love. Even if we know what to do, we are afraid of hurting those around us by abandoning everything in order to pursue our dreams. What we do not realise is that love never keeps us from pursuing our dream. If we abandon the pursuit it is because it is not true love.

We all seem to be loosing the ability to choose our own destiny.After a certain point in our lives, I believe if we carry on this way, we will loose control of what would be happening to our us.

As optimistic as I always am ( ;) ), I don't fail to notice that these mysterious forces which seem to be tearing our dreams apart, are perhaps preparing our will and our soul to make us worthy of achieving our dreams. May we all accomplish the legend we all set our foot on this earth for!! Happy Dreaming :)